Five happy years

I saw this comic a few weeks ago and thought it was hilarious. I just wanted to share.

Pearls Before Swine - 06-01-2008

Now for something a little more meaningful.

I met Cassia in October 2001 while living in a BYU single student ward. Actually, my roommate met her before I did. So, I first noticed her by virtue of the fact that she was the person my roommate had chosen to sit next to in church that particular Sunday. Her face was one I had seen from time to time in our singles ward, but hadn’t paid much attention to. I didn’t even know her name, but from all appearances she seemed like a very sweet, caring person.

I had already put her out of my mind that evening when we received a knock on our apartment door. In walked two young ladies from our ward, accompanied by this sweet-looking and attractive young woman I had seen my roommate with at church. Apparently, my roommate had been hanging out at their apartment that afternoon, and when they informed him that they had to leave to go visiting teaching, he “complained” that women in the Church were so fortunate because they got both home and visiting teachers, while men only got home teachers. The roommates playfully suggested that they would come “visit teach” us after their scheduled appointment. So here they were, ready to sit in our living room and give us a lesson on faith.

My roommate was tickled, and I humored him by sticking around to listen to the lesson. That sweet young woman from church was sitting across from me, and I became transfixed by her wonderful brown eyes and sincere, winning smile. She was looking at me and smiling, and I just kept looking and smiling right back. There was definite chemistry percolating between us in that moment, though I think everyone else in the room was oblivious to what was happening. Then I learned the name that went with those eyes and that smile: Cassia.

I could hardly sleep that night. I tossed and turned for hours, as the image of Cassia’s face seared itself in my mind and an inner voice kept saying, over and over and over, “You need to get to know this person. You really need to get to know this person.”

We developed a very good friendship early on. I discovered just how pleasant, intelligent, thoughtful and mature she really was, and easily imagined her as being around 20-21 years old and in her second year of college. Cassia still remembers the stunned expression on my face when she revealed that she was but a freshman and had just barely turned 18. It’s true – I was completely blown away!

Nearly 18 months elapsed between our first meeting and the night I proposed to her.  We both grew up a lot during that time, and our friendship matured and sweetened along the way as well. When we announced our engagement in March 2003, our ward brothers and sisters cheered long and loud, more in the sense of “FINALLY!” than anything. Everyone knew we were made for each other; we just hadn’t figured it out yet. :)

Having known Cassia for over a year and a half before we married, I was very fortunate to know her much more fully than most people got to know each other at BYU before getting married. Very little changed between us after our sealing; the best part, I told her, was never having to say “good night” at her apartment door ever again. To this day, five years to the day when we were married for time and eternity in the Salt Lake Temple, she remains the best and dearest friend I have ever had. I don’t think there’s any better way to describe a great marriage.

For those of you who may not know, Cassia is from American Fork, Utah, and is the oldest of six children. She graduated at the top of her high school class, and in June 2001 was named one of the “12 Utah County Teens Who Will Change the World” by Utah Valley Magazine. She graduated with a degree in microbiology in under three and a half years, and has since proceeded to change the world by raising two wonderful, energetic kids (with a third on the way) and supporting her husband while he figures out what he’s going to do with his life. She is just as sweet, tender, sensitive, mature, and thoughtful as the day we met, but now with greater wisdom and empathy from being a wife and mother. Cassia is at the very heart of our home. From her I have learned that donuts count as a breakfast food, eating ice cream every day is natural, any chocolate dessert can be improved by adding mint, buying multiple calendars every year just for the artwork is OK, “While You Were Sleeping” is actually a pretty good movie, rainy days are the happiest ones, and most everything is worth keeping for sentimental value alone. More seriously, she continues to demonstrate to me that the Lord always always always comes first, that it’s impossible to have a great day without reading your scriptures first, that priesthood blessings contain great power and are worth remembering, and that it’s doing “the little things” that keeps us as blessed as we are today.

I’m so glad that I followed that little voice in my mind that restless night in October 2001. I’m so grateful that Cassia chose me as her partner in creating an eternal family. It’s a gift that’s second only to the Atonement in importance in my life, and I thank my Heavenly Father every day for it.


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4 Responses to “Five happy years”

  1. I loved reading this. We all think you are both outstanding!! By the way, Grampa and I will have been married 55 years in October. I can’t believe the time has passed so fast.

    Love, Gramma

  2. Wow… that was really sweet :) I’m impressed you remembered all the little details, too.

  3. Natalie
    Actually, I had to cut down on some of the details to keep this from becoming a book-length post. Better to let them trickle out over time instead of having them gush forth all at once. :) Besides, I gotta save some stuff for future yeats!

    Wow, almost 55 years! That’s an incredible milestone. We hope to catch up with you someday . . . just give us a little time to get there. We’re only halfway to double digits right now! :)

  4. Thank you, Bryan. That really made my day. :) It’s funny to feel special and embarrassed at the same time. :) I know I’ve told you this before, but that really is the best “present” I could get–this time in post form instead of card, but the same sweet sentiments. :) I did enjoy the nice dinner out, though, and the very thoughtful Midi connector and music software for the piano. :) I consider myself lucky to have such a thoughtful husband as you! I’ll have to work on a similar post soon… but I’m daunted because I don’t think I could make it turn out as beautifully as yours. You definitely have a gift for words. :)

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